Working with me as psychologist is about deeply understanding that which keeps you stuck and shining light on the patterns that keep repeating themselves. This is not as straight forward as it sounds - sometimes we think that we know what needs change, until we look closer, and realise that there are deeper layers to our issues and desires. Together, we will safely and compassionately go on a quest through your psyche, and, with utmost curiosity, understand the ways of your mind, and the root of habits, emotional patterns and relational patterns. Through understanding and insight, we tend to become more compassionate with ourselves and others, and we can handle uncertainty, just like the Wanderer on the right, with more grace. Insight, understanding and a different perspective can change the way we experience our life - no matter what we experience. If our relationship to ourselves and thus the world changes, our experience of life changes too. To become more aware of your deepest psychological layers, we explore your psyche through the right questions, dream work, parts work and meditation. Throughout this process, I ensure that I hold a safe and compassionate space for you in which you can explore all kinds of emotions, thoughts and experiences.
The integration of that which is understood is just as important as the insight itself. Most of our patterns are not rooted in our mind, but in our body. In fact, the unconscious lives for the most part in the body, not the mind. In my work, the body is a living part of our therapy. To become more balanced, we need to become more aware of our body and its signals. I work with meditations, parts work (IFS), and somatic techniques to include the body in therapy.
The goal of our therapy is to diminish the need for psychotherapy. As Winnicott, a psychoanalyst, has said: “The aim of psychotherapy is to bring the patient to a state where he no longer needs psychotherapy.” Therefore, the goal is to support you on your journey to an extend that you will no longer need my therapeutic support. We cannot determine the time that we need in our therapy beforehand - from experience, the time varies and depends strongly on our collaborative relationship, as well as your openness for change. I have witnessed tremendous change after one session, and sometimes after 12. Imagine a flower that is closed, and we shine light on it. We will not know when the flower will blossom, all we can do is to keep on nourishing it with sunlight. Eventually, the flower will blossom.
Der Wanderer (1818) by Caspar David Friedrich, MET Museum New York City, 2025
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